Pancakes go most smoothly when the cold work and the hot work are treated as different parts of the recipe. Let children really own the bowl work first: measuring flour, adding baking powder and sugar, cracking eggs into a separate bowl, pouring milk and whisking. That way, by the time the pan comes out, they already feel involved.
Use a big bowl and a jug if you can. The big bowl keeps the flour from puffing out when the wet mixture goes in, and the jug makes pouring easier for small hands. A damp cloth under the bowl is a tiny thing, but it can stop that annoying slide-across-the-counter moment just when a child starts whisking enthusiastically.
The batter is a good place to teach adjustment rather than perfection. If there are floury pockets around the edge, scrape and whisk again. If the batter thickens while it waits, add a small splash of milk. Children often find this reassuring: cooking is not ruined just because something needs a little fix.
Once you get to the hob, make the pancakes small. Small pancakes are easier to pour, easier to flip and much easier to forgive if they fold over. I would say out loud that the first pancake is the practice pancake. It lowers the pressure immediately and gives everyone permission to learn.
Watch for bubbles together. That is the moment where the visual recipe comes alive: the card says fry and flip, and the pan gives a real sign that it is nearly time. When the hot work is done, hand the recipe back with toppings. Choosing fruit, syrup, yoghurt or other toppings is a safe, satisfying finish after the more supervised pan step.